About Me
The Full Story
From a young age, I struggled with enmeshment issues, bullying, low self-esteem, shame, and anxiety. I sought confidence in sports, excelling as a team captain where I felt a sense of purpose and belonging. I was also nominated to be a prefect at school. However, my journey wasn’t always smooth—I battled fantasy addiction and self-destructive behaviours that kept me stuck in cycles of fear and abandonment. Then as I got older the addictions grew into alchohol and codependency. The more alcohol I consumed the more I lost touch with the 'prefect' and felt more like a walking 'defect'. My family and friends had to let me go as I was becoming more and more dysfunctional and full of self loathing and I was not taking any advice or offers of help. I kept going for a couple of years, becoming more and more despairing and chronically lonely. Until at the age of 30, after becoming sick and tired of feeling sick and tired, I decided to stop drinking and try to find a way to cope with life in a healthy way.
Through communicating frequently with like minded fellows and working 12 step programs I started begin my healing and took more responsibility for myself. Throughdeep self-analysis work with a therapist, my recovery network, and a commitment to reparenting, I transformed my life. Now, as a trained estrangement coach, I help others do the same. I specialise in guiding people through the pain of disconnection, whether from family, partners, or even themselves. My mission is to help you overcome fear, shame, and unhealthy patterns so you can experience the nurturing feeling of personal freedom and build fulfilling, authentic relationships.
I believe that healing is possible for everyone, and I’m passionate about bringing people together and supporting them in their journey toward self-acceptance and growth. If you're ready to step into a more empowered version of yourself, I’d love to walk alongside you.
Dear Potential Client,
I want to assure you that as your coach, my promise to you is one of unwavering support, guidance, and dedication to your growth and success. Here is my coaching promise to you:
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Confidentiality: I will maintain the utmost confidentiality and respect for your privacy. Your personal information, challenges, and goals will be kept strictly confidential, creating a safe space for open and honest conversations.
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Active Listening: I will attentively listen to your thoughts, concerns, and aspirations without judgment. By actively listening, I will gain a deep understanding of your unique situation and be able to provide tailored guidance.
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Empathy and Understanding: I will approach our coaching relationship with empathy and understanding, recognizing that everyone's journey is different. I will seek to understand your perspective, emotions, and experiences, fostering a supportive environment that promotes personal growth.
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Goal-Oriented Approach: Together, we will establish clear and meaningful goals. I will work closely with you to break down these goals into actionable steps, providing you with tools, techniques, and strategies to help you achieve them.
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Accountability and Motivation: I will hold you accountable for the commitments you make to yourself. Through regular check-ins and progress assessments, I will help you stay motivated and focused, even during challenging times.
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Personalized Guidance: I will provide customized guidance and support based on your individual needs, strengths, and values. Our coaching sessions will be tailored to address your specific challenges and empower you to overcome obstacles.
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Continuous Learning and Growth: As your coach, I am committed to continuous learning and growth to provide you with the most up-to-date coaching techniques and strategies. I will stay informed about the latest research and practices to ensure you receive the best possible support.
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Partnership and Collaboration: Our coaching relationship will be a partnership built on trust and collaboration. Together, we will explore possibilities, brainstorm solutions, and celebrate your achievements. I will be your ally and advocate throughout your personal development journey.
By choosing me as your coach, you can expect unwavering dedication, professional expertise, and a genuine commitment to your success. I am here to guide and support you every step of the way.
Sincerely, Martyn
I specialise in areas such as family estrangement, parental neglect, avoidance and procrastination, unhealthy coping strategies and self care.
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